🤎 Parenting as Repatterning 🤎

(Meeting our inner child, too.)

No one told us that parenting would be less about having all the answers—

and more about hearing all the echoes.

Of our own unmet needs.

Of the tone we feared.

Of the silence we craved.

Of the safety we never had.

Because parenting doesn’t just shape our children.

It stirs up the ghosts of who we were.

Every time your child melts down, clings too tightly, says “no” too loudly, or needs more than you feel able to give—

it’s not just their nervous system that responds.

It’s yours, too.

And often… it’s the little one inside of you who’s whispering,

“Is it safe to feel this much?”

“Will someone stay with me through it?”

“Am I too much? Again?”

Parenting is repatterning.

It’s not perfection.

It’s not control.

It’s a radical act of meeting two children at once—

the one in front of you, and the one within you.

It’s holding space for all the moments you needed to feel held.

It’s softening when you were taught to harden.

It’s saying, “I’ve got you,”

when your inner child still aches to hear those words, too.

And no—

you won’t always get it right.

But that’s not the point.

The point is that you’re willing to listen.

To pause.

To reparent.

To remember.

This is how cycles break.

This is how new stories form.

This is how we raise whole humans—

without abandoning ourselves in the process.